Couples Therapy

“I love you,” and “I can’t stand you.”

Let’s call it what it is – shit has hit the fan. Yes, saying what you think and feel is welcome in therapy.

Working with a therapist is not your first attempt to “fix” your relationship. You have worked your butt off, which is both empowering and exhausting.

Relationship trauma, repeated trauma, built up resentment, severe disconnection, withered trust, and __________ (insert all the emotions here).

“I feel disconnected, hopeless, and uncertain about how to move forward.”

The potential of losing a romantic partner is overwhelming. Emotions are heightened. Any decision feels like a wrong decision.

Conflicting emotions are confusing. Conversations are hard.

Emotions are near the edge: rejection, anger, hurt, defensiveness, resentment.

This was not part of the plan when you got together.

Moving forward is hard.

It’s tough when rocked by affairs, infidelity, sexual misbehavior, or severe sexual disconnection. That baggage from prior relationships may continually show up, making trust difficult.

Emotional abuse may continue, or situations in your relationship may trigger memories of your previous trauma history.

Addiction or unhealthy behaviors make trust nearly impossible. The cycle is never-ending.

Those patterns you experience now may cause you to become even more enmeshed in a never-ending conflict.

It is not worth risking “average therapy.” Pick the right therapist, one who can help you make your relationship less rocky.

Relationships are like a dance.

At times, things sway and flow. Then people change, a bombshell is dropped, life happens, and what once felt safe, connected, fun, and passionate now feels like _______________ (insert ten different emotions here).

Stepping on each other’s feet is aggravating and not an experience you are willing to continue.

Creating a new dance…

Let’s get one thing straight. A LOT has happened in your relationship and individual lives – AND you’re not broken. Your partner is not broken.

We will take the time to slow down what is happening for each of you individually and in your relationship. Creating a new dance is not like going to a high school dance.

You’re in the right space if you are searching for you and your partner to be seen, heard, and understood at a deep level.

Therapy will be a space, to be honest, have hard conversations, obtain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, increase emotional awareness, enhance communication strategies, and learn to connect safely.

No outcomes are guaranteed for your relationship. Learning to have the relationship of your dreams is the goal.

Leave your old relationship behind.

Seriously, your old relationship was not working. That may or may not mean breaking up, separating, or divorcing.

It does mean that safety is THE priority. Putting the options on the table (breaking up or staying together) provides an opportunity for healing and a chance to experience a deeper level of intimacy.

Putting in the work means you will learn to trust yourself, set clear and healthy boundaries, discover new ways of connecting with yourself and others, and gain confidence that you can have the life and relationship you long to have.

Hard work is rewarding.

Learning how to salsa is much different than having your feet stepped on.

Intimacy is real.

Safe, intentional, connecting, trusting, passionate, and hot relationships are real.

Let’s get a free consultation scheduled to change the trajectory of your relationship.